Fudanshi BF

So, you’re dating a guy who’s cute, kind, funny... and obsessed with Boys’ Love (BL) in plain English you’ve got yourself a Fudanshi boyfriend. But before you panic about him ignoring your messages because he’s busy reading the English version of Tharn Type, no idea where he got the translated novel, —take a deep breath.

Here’s the scoop, your boyfriend is technically in love with two guys who are so into each other. So, what to expect? First off, accept the fact that you will always be competing with fictional men. Learn to accept that his standards for romance may now involve emotional stares, shared umbrellas, and long monologues about feelings in the rain, and don’t be shock if he carries the car keys by biting on it, his mode is just on the first version of 2Moons. No biggie, really. Here’s the thing, with your boyfriend, the only error involves Semantic Error. Thus if suddenly your boyfriend starts screaming and sayin’ “Oh My God they kissed!” probably he’s just reviewing the Season One of Krist and Singto’s Sotus, he’s not yet on the Sotus S season. Fudanshi boyfriends are dramatic during BL plot twists, especially when a confession finally happens after 8 episodes of longing glances. Like any Fujoshi, he will gasp. He will throw pillows. He might cry.
Let him. It’s sacred. What you can do is to educate yourself on the lingo, learn new strange words like Seme and Uke, which means dominant and submisssive, Canon which is something that’s confirmed in the story, its technically serious stuffs and OTP, One True Pairing, your boyfriend has one, just let him keep it to himself, it’s something just for him. And if you don’t want to see your boyfriend go full Tiktok crazy on you, never confuse bromance with romance. The first one is Kdrama normal while the latter is Jimmy and Sea, Joong and Dunk and Phuwin and Pond level. Like seriously , these amazing Thai actors understands their audience, and when in their character mode, they bring out not only their very best acting skills but they bring depth to the characters they’re portraying, making their BL series not only memorable but impactful. This is why Thai BL tops the world. And if your boyfriend gets this “Do not open” random packages, obviously don’t dare open it, it’s just his BL novel or Manga sticker, probably he also bought a dakimakura or hug pillow or one of those plush toys that GMMTV sells, that’s totally super cute. And when it comes to shipping, you kinda need to go with the flow by embracing the shipping life. Remember, he doesn’t just ship characters: He ships everyone. Two strangers hold hands on the train? SHIPPED.
The waiter and barista exchange a glance? SHIPPED. You compliment a male friend? He’s already writing fanfic. Best course of action: Join him. Make up your own ships.
Shipping is bonding. With all the BL thingy that’s going on with your boyfriend here’s one thing you should always remember: Don’t take it personally. Your boyfriend is into BL not because he wished you’re a guy. He simply just enjoy the drama, mystery, suspense, romance, comedy, slow burn chilling moments, screaming causing fan meeting and tear producing MV’s that BL offers. What you can do though is to understand his passion, use it to your advantage, like spice things up: Try this, accidentally trip and fall on his arm, stare at him like there’s no tomorrow, remove an invisible leaf on his hair, try putting on the seat belt for him while pretending to give him a slow kiss, start drinking pink milk, where to buy it? I guess some place called Bangkok? Surprise him with a transparent umbrella. At the end of the day, remember that you’re his main couple. Everything else? Including all the BL actors and characters, they’re just bonus content on his life.